This is sleep consulting for families with children over 4 months whose sleep has become the thing that is shaping every other part of your life.
Not therapy. Not a course. A real plan, written for your child and your family, with a real human behind you while you carry it out. You do not have to choose between sleep and attachment. You do not have to do this the way the internet told you. You do not have to convince yourself you should be fine on less.
Some of this might sound familiar.
Not a checklist to pass or fail. Just the shapes this tends to take, in case it helps to see them named.
Your child is at least four months old and their sleep is not getting better on its own.
You have read the books.
You have watched the videos. You have tried two methods that did not stick. The exhaustion has gotten worse.
You want a plan, but you also want it to fit who your child is and who your family is, not a template.
You are afraid that sleep training will harm your child or your bond with them, and you want an approach that fits with how you parent.
You and your partner do not fully agree on the approach, and the disagreement is adding to the strain.
The lack of sleep is affecting your mood, your patience, your work, or your marriage.
You want someone in your corner while you implement, not a PDF you read alone at 3am.
If you see yourself in even one of these, you are in the right place.
What this might feel like
In their own words. Some of what parents say, before they have a name for it.
He woke five times last night. Or six. I cannot remember anymore. I do not know how I am supposed to keep doing this.
Everyone has a method. None of the methods work for my actual baby. I am too tired to keep guessing.
I want him to sleep. I also do not want him to feel alone in his crib while he learns. I do not know how to do both.
How I work with child sleep consulting
The process is structured and unhurried. Before we meet, you fill out a detailed questionnaire so I can understand your child, your home, your previous attempts, and what you are actually trying to achieve. I review it before our call. The call itself is 60 minutes, by phone or video, and at the end of it we have a co-created plan that fits your child and your family rather than a generic template.
The plan covers four areas: the sleep environment, routines, the schedule, and the sleep training approach. None of these are guesses. They are built around what we know about age appropriate child sleep expectations, your child's temperament specifically, plus what you and your partner can be consistent with. Afterward, you get a comprehensive summary email so you do not have to remember everything from the call, and ongoing email support so you are not implementing alone.
What I have learned over the years of doing this work is that sleep training is not about the method alone. What parents need is more than just a method, it is a wholistic plan that sets their children up for successful, longterm, healthy sleep habits. It is the support to stay consistent and follow through even on the harder days. It is the reassurance in knowing how to remain highly attuned to their children during this transition to achieve the sleep they need to be healthy and grow. That is what this service is built to provide.
Practical details
Sessions and format
A 60-minute sleep planning call by phone or video.
Virtual sessions across Ontario or in person in the Kitchener-Waterloo area. We can talk through which format fits your life on the consult call.
Fees and insurance
A receipt is provided for insurance reimbursement under Social Work Services, and many extended plans cover sessions. You confirm your coverage with your insurer.
For full details on session fees and payment, visit the Fees & Insurance page.
Every new client starts with a free 15-minute phone consultation. Once we have spoken, we will book a time that works for both of us. There is no obligation to continue.
Starting does not have to be complicated.
Book a free consult
A free 15-minute phone call. We talk about what is going on and whether we are the right fit. No obligation to continue.
Find your footing
Once we have spoken, we will book a time that works for both of us. The first sessions are slower and reflective; we get clear on what you are carrying.
Do the work, together
We work at the pace your nervous system can hold, and check in often about what is shifting and what you need next.
Frequently asked questions
Four months is the youngest age I work with, and I generally prefer to start after five months. Below four months, your child's sleep is still developmentally consolidating and structured sleep planning is not appropriate. I will work with families at four months when they are particularly struggling, but I otherwise encourage parents to wait if they can. If your baby is younger than four months and you are struggling, that is a real thing, and the right places to look for support are your paediatrician, your public health unit, and perinatal mental health support for what the sleep deprivation is doing to you, not sleep training for the baby. We can revisit when your child gets there.
This is the question most parents arrive carrying, and it deserves a clear answer: a thoughtfully chosen, age-appropriate sleep plan, implemented with attunement to your specific child, does not damage attachment. What can erode the relationship is chronic exhaustion, parental burnout, and the resentment that builds when nobody in the family is sleeping. The harder question is which approach you can implement that fits with your family, and that is a question I take seriously with everyone I work with. There is more than one right way to do this.
Books and guides give you information. What is usually missing in the middle of the night, after a long day, with a partner who has an opinion and a child who is genuinely upset, is not information. It is the steady voice of someone who has seen this before, who knows your child's specific situation, and who will help you stay the course through the harder nights without abandoning the plan or your values. That is what is included in this service, and that is most of the difference.
Related areas
Many families who reach out about sleep are also navigating other things that the sleep deprivation has made harder. The pages below cover the most common.
Ready to talk?
Every new client starts with a free 15-minute phone call. We talk about what is going on, what you are hoping for, and whether we are the right fit. No paperwork. No pressure.